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Hospice of the Red River Valley: Thoughtful Gifts for the Bereaved

Hospice of the Red River Valley
Hospice of the Red River Valley

When a friend or family member loses someone they love, it’s natural to want to comfort them in some way. Attending a memorial service, wake or funeral is very meaningful. Thoughtful gifts are also a significant way of letting the family know you’re thinking of them.

You may choose a gift that’s intended to provide a measure of comfort, or one that will help them cope with the days and months ahead, or a memento that will honor the memory of their loved one. No matter what you choose, your gift represents your love and support. Along with spending time with those who are grieving (either in person, on the phone or virtually) just letting your friend or family member know you’re thinking of them is often the best gift.

What do you get someone who has experienced a loss? Your relationship with the bereaved person may help you choose the right gift. Pair your gift with a sympathy card, and consider sharing your favorite memory of the person who died.

Gift ideas for those who are grieving:

    Flowers

    Plant

    Gift basket

    Donate to a memorial fund or to the deceased person’s favorite charity

    Picture frame

    A gift card to a restaurant, spa or cleaning service

    Make and share favorite meal, snack, treat or beverage

    Coffee or tea

    Chocolate

    Cheese

    A blanket, pillow or teddy bear made from the deceased’s clothing

    Bird feeder

    Garden stone or ornament

    Wind chimes

    Weighted blanket

    Journal

    Books

    Zen garden

    Worry stone

Spending time with those who are grieving is a gift in itself. Your presence, even if you don’t know what to say, is a show of love and support. Remembering your friend or family member’s loved one who has died in the early days of loss, and on special days (wedding anniversaries, anniversary of the death, birthdays, holidays) can mean a lot to the grieving person, too.

If you or someone you know is grieving, Hospice of the Red River Valley offers free community grief support resources and grief support groups. Please contact us, or call 800-237-4629 and ask for the grief department.