Father's Day can be a difficult time for someone grieving the loss of either parent. It also can be awkward for friends and family wondering what to do with"or say to"the grieving person on this special day. We hope that you will join those who have found the following suggestions helpful in similar circumstances. Ways…
Father's Day can be a difficult time for someone grieving the loss of either parent. It also can be awkward for friends and family wondering what to do with"or say to"the grieving person on this special day. We hope that you will join those who have found the following suggestions helpful in similar circumstances.
Ways to Remember Your FatherTake part in an activity that your father would appreciateGo to a location that holds special memories of himRemember your father with a special mealWas there a tradition that he especially enjoyed on Father's Day? If so, is there a way you can take part in that in some way?Use the day to share stories of your father with other members of the family, especially younger generations that might not have known him wellMake a financial gift to an organization that he supportedTake flowers to your father's gravesiteGive flowers to your faith community in his memoryListen to music that your father enjoyedSupport a community cause that was important to your father
Support for YouConsider how you would best like to spend this day: Alone? With family? With friends? At home? Going to a special place?Share fond memories of your father with other family membersTalk with friends who also have lost their fathersSpend the day participating in a hobby, sport or other activity that you enjoyRead a book that is uplifting and encouragingSpend time with a petListen to your favorite musicInvite family and friends to share a meal with youWatch a show or movie that you enjoySpend some time outdoorsTreat yourself to a special meal at a favorite restaurant
Support for a Friend who has Lost a FatherRecognize your friend may find this to be a difficult dayOffer to spend time with your friend on Father's DayIf your friend wants to talk about her father, listen attentively and without judgmentTell your friend that you are available to join him in an activity to remember his fatherLet your friend know you are available for a 'fun' day if that is what she prefersSend a card recalling a special memory of your friend's fatherGo with your friend to a religious service where his father is rememberedBe open to supporting a wide variety of emotions from your friendIf conversation with your friend is open, consider sharing a fond memory of her fatherTell your friend that you see an admirable trait of his father living on through himOffer to take your friend to one of her father's favorite restaurantsOffer to go with your friend to place flowers at her father's gravesiteMake a donation to a favorite charity of your friend's fatherInvite your friend to your home for a mealSit with your friend as he reviews photos and other memorabilia related to his fatherAssist your friend with a project that honors her fatherProvide childcare for your friend so she can have time aloneOffer to care for your friend's pet(s) and/or plants so he can spend time away from home for a day or two
This article is used with permission from Hospice Foundation of America (HFA). For more information about HFA, visit www.hospicefoundation.org.
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