There has to be a way to disagree without sinking to these levels.
Only a few short weeks ago, our country watched as the nomination of Brett Kavanaugh to the Supreme Court of the United States took a drastically nasty turn for the worse. We all know, by now, that several allegations of rape were made against him. He categorically denied all of the allegations, and many people that had known him his whole life came to his defense. Eventually, the FBI determined that all allegations against him were either blatantly false, or unsubstantiated. This, however, was not and still is not good enough for some people, who still are willing to slander him at all costs.
It was during the proceedings and goings on in the Senate chamber that I sat in my parents living room and remarked to my mother that it likely wouldn’t be long before people on the conservative side of things would be falsely accused of rape just because someone doesn’t like them. I even recall saying that it would likely be something that could happen to me, due to the fact that I am a very outspoken conservative, and I enjoy challenging the viewpoints of the left. Little did I know, this would happen sooner rather than later.
Over the last several weeks, I have been publicly called a rapist twice. This has happened on Facebook, and both times it was by someone I have never even met. Let me be clear, they did not say I raped them, but they painted me with a broad brush, and called me a “rapist.” Would anyone care to venture why they called me a rapist? It was because they made a comment about something political, and because I challenged their viewpoint, they brought out the rapist card. One of these instances happened not that long ago, and as many of you probably saw, it happened on a Crookston Times Facebook post.
In this particular incident, one young woman, about my age, said that our current President is a rapist. I asked her if she was sure about that, and then she indicated that she was and told me some situations she was referencing. I then did some research, while I waited in line to dump my latest load of beets at American Crystal around 4 AM one night, and found that there was not evidence supporting her claim. At this time, the rapist card was pulled out, and the slander game was on. I then went into full out offensive mode in an attempt to protect my character, all the while never hurling false allegations and slander at her. This only made the situation worse, and in the end, we never got anywhere, other than into a mud-slinging match of sorts, where she continued to call me a rapist, abuser, and piece of garbage (cleaned up for readers sake).
My plea with any reader of this article is to not only ignore these allegations when they pop up, but also to not support or engage in such false allegations. You see, rape is a serious matter. Not only is it a crime, but it is life destroying and morally destitute. Accusing someone of this, particularly in a small community, can destroy a reputation. I have personal relationships to maintain, work relationships, professional relationships, friendships, etc., as does everyone. What a shame it would be to have any of those ruined by someone, who disagrees with you or I, falsely calling them a rapist.
At this time, I would like to point out that I have not referenced the person that did this by name, and I will not do so. I didn’t use disparaging terms, and I didn’t insult them. I will let their own words and false accusations do the talking for them. In the future, lets all use proper discourse. When we disagree or debate, use facts, reason, logic, and articulate arguments. If you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all. We should all be comfortable disagreeing and debating each other. It makes for healthy conversation and thought processes, and if you truly believe in what you believe, it should make you a stronger person because of it.
False allegations and character assassinations are wrong, especially when someone tries to paint you as a rapist. Let’s be quick to overlook ridiculous accusations like this, and to learn to debate and argue in an adult like manner.