Tweten’s manifesto is generating a lot of buzz; she’ll be at Ferguson Books in Grand Forks on Friday
A former Climax, Minnesota woman will be making a stop in Grand Forks at Ferguson Books Friday, August 31, from 5 to 7 p.m., for a signing of her new book, “Bye Felipe: Disses, Dick Pics, and other Delights of Modern Dating.” Alexandra Tweten, who has been called a “Feminist-Tinder-Creep-Busting Web Vigilante,” has been featured in national media outlets including the New York Times, Huffington Post, and Cosmopolitan, and is the subject of the forthcoming short-form documentary #Internetfamous.
Tweten grew up in Climax, from second grade to 12th grade, and went to St. Cloud State for journalism before moving to Los Angeles. She got an internship at Ms. Magazine, an American liberal feminist magazine co-founded by second-wave feminists and sociopolitical activists Gloria Steinem and Dorothy Pitman Hughes, and then started an Instagram account that happened to get “really popular” in 2013.
Her Instagram account @ByeFelipe is a place for women to protest the horrors of online dating, and to share stories and screenshots of their own experiences. Wunderkind PR says the Instagram account has become a forum where women can fight back against the men who have made them uncomfortable, scared, and embarrassed - and to laugh at the appalling men they encounter. (The name “Bye Felipe” is a nod to the “Bye Felicia” meme which is said to be the cool dismissal of a noxious person.)
“It started as an inside joke between friends and to make light of the situations we were experiencing,” Tweten told the Times. “Someone at the Atlantic Magazine interviewed me and it went viral.”
“I kept updating the account and talked about online harassment,” she added. “I wanted to write a book about it because I had a lot more to say than what would fit in the tiny Instagram square.”
After speaking with a literary agent, she worked on the draft proposal and sold the book in 2017.
“The big takeaway is advice for women with how to deal with harassment online and how to do online dating without burning out, and the best way to meet people,” Tweten continued. “The big thing is don’t take it too seriously.”
Tweten’s book tour includes stops in Los Angeles, Minneapolis, Brooklyn (N.Y.), and Washington D.C.